Watch your mouth

When she speaks, her words are wise,
    and she gives instructions with kindness. Proverbs 31:26


A woman's tongue. 

Can build or destroy. A woman has the power of life in her hands. Not just in bearing children but the words she speaks to her loved ones.She should be temperate and trustworthy in ALL things. A helper. If you tell her something it goes NO WHERE ELSE. She keeps it between you, her and God. Does not use it to sin against her family with gossip with her friends. She keeps her cool most of the time. Because let face it we are not perfect and have bad days. She is joyful and happy. Slow to anger. 
Building and Edifying. Encourages her loved ones with word that lift and cause them to strive to be who God called them to be and never for selfish ambition. She speaks the truth but is careful to not break the spirit. 
Praying and seeking for her family.  Her relationship with God is rich. She prays for them daily if not multiple times a day.  She seeks wisdom and discernment. Blessings and Favor. She brings her family to the throne of Our Lord and continue to knock on our behalf.  If this does not describe you ladies. Trying making a conscience effort to start. And ask Jesus to help you. To bring to mind what you should do differently. To give you the words to speak. The wisdom to know how to handle the situation.

I HAVE seen women that are not this way. They are manipulative, controlling, nag constantly, use verbal games to get what they want out of their families. This is NOT the way God what God intended. And they make excuses as to why their behavior is acceptable. It is NOT acceptable. It is tearing down what should be built up.  There are MANY verses in the Bible that talk this topic here are a few:


Better a meal of vegetables where there is love
than a fattened ox with hatred. Proverbs 15:17

Better to live on the corner of a roof
than to share a house with a nagging wife. Proverbs 21:9

Better to live in a wilderness
than with a nagging and hot-tempered wife. Proverbs 21:19

For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want you to be, and you may not find me as you want me to be. I fear that there may be discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder. Corinthians 12:20

The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands a foolish one tears hers down.

 I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, 

but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God. 

 A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. 

 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. 

 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 

 And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. 

 But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.  1 Timothy 2: 9- 15

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 

 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 

 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. Titus 2: 3-5

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 

 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 1 Peter 3:1-2

oops.... I used that submit verse. 

Submission is NOT a bad word if you understand it.
We are valuable. We hold the power in our hands to make the lives of our families wonderful. Or needing to spend their adult life in counseling.  We, as women, have a job. YES. The man is held to a higher standard. And you don't need to remind him of such. I heard these wise words from my mentor. 

You do what you are supposed to do. And if he is not you pray more. How? On your knees. And let the mighty arm of God swoop down and touch that man. If you are standing and in the way. Guess who is gonna get hit wih His Arm?  Because you are not doing what you are supposed to. Mind your business. Pray for him. Don't forget you are on the same team. Common Goal. Common ground. He is not your enemy. And who says you are right? Love him. Pray for him. Talk to him not at him. Respect him. You reap what you sow.

Wisest words I had ever heard.  She was doing it. An older Christian woman teaching younger Christian women. Showing and leading as we are supposed to. 

I encourage you Sisters. Mind what you say. How you say it. Ask your self to THINK.

T.H.I.N.K.  

IS IT:


True
Helpful
Inspiring
Necessary
Kind.

taken right out of Ephesians 4:29

We can change the world. It starts with you.

Blessing.